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Why don’t we get what we want in life?
Well, we actually do get what we want in life, but since we insist that the thing we desire look the way we think its supposed to look (and because it never does) – we actually shut out what wants to present itself in our experience (which is what we want) – and we miss it completely.
We ignore it. We deny it. We refuse to see the possibility in it. It wants to show us the way and generate creative ideas, but we think we know better.
So we end up with nothing. Or rather, we end up with a lot but it never seems to square away with the idea of what we want, so it feels like we’re getting squat.
There is your idea of life and how you want it to unfold . . . then there’s life.
When you give up your ideas (and expectations) of how things are supposed to be and instead embrace what you have, you begin to see interesting patterns.
Patterns whispering to you, “This is the way.” “Try this.” “Don’t be scared.” “Give it a go.” “Trust.” “What do you have to lose?” “What’s the worst that can happen?” “Breathe.”
When you start listening to the hunches, the “ah-hah’s,” the inner charges, you start to move in the direction of that thing you’re wanting, even if you can’t see it yet.
And that’s when the “How’s” of life become the “Wow’s”
You begin to stop worrying about the “How’s.”
“How will I get there?” “How will it work?” “How do I know?” “How is it possible?” “How can I be certain?”
Let Infinite Intelligence work out the plans. You can’t orchestrate them. You can’t control them. (Try as you might!) All you can do is set forth a clear intention and then go for the ride.
Try being a passenger for once. (And not the bossy, back-seat driver kind!) I mean, the kind where you trust you’ll end up at your destination even if you aren’t in control of reading the map.
Life is a lot like driving at night in the fog.
All you really have to do is keep illuminating the next 100 feet in front of you.
People often ask me, “Why do we have ego?”
Well without it, you wouldn’t be able to know that there’s another part of you. Something grander. More brave. More joyous.
The soulful part of you. Spirit. Infinite Intelligence. The Creative Matrix. Potential.
Living in a world of duality, you can’t know something without having the experience of its opposite.
We know joy because we’ve experienced sorrow. We know what compassion is because we’ve been indifferent. We know what generosity is because we’ve experienced greed. And so on.
So to have ego creates the possibility to know the bigger part of you.
But ego tries to keep us in the dark, hiding from our Light. And its incompatible with creativity.
The journey of our lives in general – and of our artistic expression specifically – is to try to dismantle the ego so we live more and more in potential. But that’s difficult because the ego’s job is self-preservation. And its been preserving you for a very long time.
When we work on things creatively that bring up our vulnerability – which is (ironically) our natural state – the ego will kick in to preserve the self – our identity. When we hear criticism in this state of vulnerability – it’s not what we hear now that causes the ego to rear its ugly head. It’s that you actually hear it incorrectly from your 8-year old wounded self who was made to feel unsafe or unprotected or exposed. Your ego protected you at that time (perhaps legitimately), but instead of hearing the criticism from a neutral place of now, the ego misperceives and distorts how you receive it, confusing it as an attack. Just like when you were in the 3rd grade. Ego goes into full-on preservation mode. And it shuts out possibility.
But like anything, awareness is the first step to change.
This week, if you’re in any of the 8 “S’s” you’re in a state governed by the ego -
Stuck — Shut down – Shut Out – Saboteur – Safe – Separate – Small – Self Centered.
They are just states of self-preservation. Become aware of them, breathe, and let them go. Your 8-year old self can thank them. But they don’t serve you anymore.
“Are you placing enough interesting, freakish, long shot, weirdo bets?” ~ Tom Peters