You are!
Duh.
Except that you don’t see yourself that way. You see yourself through the dirty mirror of the left-brain’s Maddening Mind Matrix.
That is, when life gives us a big fat “No!” – which it will invariably do if you’re out in the world pursuing your dreams – we personalize the “No” in a way that triggers our left-brain’s default neural groove.
Hearing a “No” isn’t really that big a deal. But when we associate that “No” with incorrect interpretations in our left hemisphere (“I’m talentless.” “It’s never going to happen for me.” “I suck.”) we immediately let the “No” defeat us.
We stop moving forward. We move back to Baltimore. We reach for that Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby. (Which by the way, is amaze-balls! And they have a gay version called Hubby Hubby!)
Or we personalize the defeats by beating ourselves up for the way we look or who we are — thinking that if we were someone else it would just be easier.
Well, first of all, it wouldn’t. (Unless maybe you’re Brad Pitt.) And actually, he’s got his shit too. Everyone does!
So all we need to do is a bit of radical re-working of our brain’s neural wiring. It’s like Frankenstein’s monster. You have to start re-booting your neural groove so you don’t let defeats defeat you.
Why are we wired to the lies of our left-brain and not the truths of our hearts?
Remember, the next time you hear a “No,” it means nothing more than that. Actually it means that you’re in the game of life and every “No” you get brings you closer to a “Yes.”
Stop thinking you’re this:
When actually you’re this:
Watch the Frankenstein experiment with the lovely Amy. “She’s ALIVE! She’s ALIVE!”
“Happiness is equilibrium. Shift your weight.” — Tom Stoppard