How do we move past our “Blurred Lines”? You know, the stuff that often makes us unable to see our emotional situations clearly. Well it won’t be by staying at the level from which confusion or blurriness is created. If you want peace, equanimity, clarity and access to wide-open spaces in your mind, youRead more
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Share your crack. No, not of the plumber’s variety. The kind that’s created from our neural noise that tells us we’re messed up in some way. It comes from this flawed premise that we seem to collectively suffer from, telling us we’re unlovable and undeserving of love. Our neural noise gets fed by thisRead more
A student of mine said recently that while she’s driving around town she often asks herself, “What am I doing with my life?” We can all relate. But when we ask ourselves that question, we often do it out of panic and undermine how much we’ve actually accomplished. We beat ourselves up for where weRead more
We hold back for all sorts of reasons. We think we’re going to be too much. We’re scared we won’t have enough if we give it all away. We believe that others will judge us and we’ll look stupid or weird or crazy. We don’t trust that if we really stopped holding ourselves back thatRead more
What will happen if you let yourself go? What will happen if you have more fun? What will happen if you truly commit? The fears in our heads are always louder and bigger than the actual experience of them in reality. In fact, once we face the things we are most scared of, we realizeRead more
Someone on Twitter recently posted to me after reading one of my blogs, “Unleashing that creative side after years of being bound by boringness is a beautiful thing.” Not only is it a beautiful thing, but once the feeling floodgates are open, we begin to realize how much of our life we’ve spent half asleep.Read more
We are all non-conformists! It’s in our DNA. There is a trailblazer within each of us just waiting to be expressed. But it requires us to become a challenge to the established ways of institutionalized, dogmatic thinking. Being a non-conformist is not about you putting something on top of who you already are. It’s allowingRead more
If only things in life were “certain.” “If I were certain I wouldn’t fail, I’d attempt that.” “If I were certain I had enough money, I’d do that.” “If I were certain he liked me back I’d ask him out.” Stop waiting. There is no certainty in life. You’re waiting for an illusion to appearRead more
Why don’t we get what we want in life? Well, we actually do get what we want in life, but since we insist that the thing we desire look the way we think its supposed to look (and because it never does) – we actually shut out what wants to present itself in our experienceRead more
When you assume you make an ass out of you and me. Why? Because assumptions aren’t based in fact. But we love to make them because they pull us out of the present moment and send us speeding into a projected future that distracts us from now. We’re so familiar with letting our mind runRead more