Last week I discussed not letting our reptilian vagus nerve get the better of us in stressful situations (like auditioning or asking Heidi Klum out on a date or parachuting at 10,000 feet) and thereby shutting us down from the potential of expressing empowered, authentic feeling that these experiences may evoke. But just likeRead more
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We’re living in an exciting time where many of the major tenets of a spiritual and meditative practice, neuroscience and the art of becoming present seem to be on an amazing synergistic parallel course leading to the same place: living a more creative, abundant, fully expressed and joyful life. But in order to makeRead more
A couple week’s ago I lectured on “Sharing Your Crack.” Which is a metaphor of sorts on understanding that the neural noise in our heads is often generated by an original, false premise that tells us we are unlovable and undeserving of love. That’s myth. But it feels real because of the paradigms thatRead more
Why do we turn the things in our lives that are gifts into complaints and burdens and headaches and drama? Why does it take tragedy (usually someone else’s) to wake us up to the gifts (however impermanent they truly are) to what we have in front of us right now? Why do we take forRead more
Share your crack. No, not of the plumber’s variety. The kind that’s created from our neural noise that tells us we’re messed up in some way. It comes from this flawed premise that we seem to collectively suffer from, telling us we’re unlovable and undeserving of love. Our neural noise gets fed by thisRead more
There’s a military saying, “Embrace the suck.” It’s a very Buddhist concept. When we deny what reality is giving us, we create suffering. So life is a dance between minimizing expectations and surrendering to what our lives actually reveal to us. By embracing our lives totally (even the stuff that “sucks”), we get throughRead more
If only we could stop telling stories that contradicted our hearts Who would we be? Amazing Adventurers. Dynamic Doers. Beautiful Bad-Asses. Courageous Creators. But it’s hard because we’re invested in our stories. And we give them so much credence because we tell them to ourselves all the time. You know the ones: “The businessRead more
When I was in NY recently, I went out dancing with some friends and I tried to do a very Dance Fever-ish kind of move. The tightness of my G-Stars prevented me from getting as low as I could go so I got stuck somewhere in between. Awkward. A sort-of Dancing Limbo Land. IRead more
Connection. It’s what we’re all after. But we mistake being “connected” (through technology) with real connection. So we keep searching for it in things. Gadgets. Tweets. Status updates. Instagrams. Pics. Video streams. And the more we keep reaching for those things to connect us, the less we actually feel. Period. Connection comes from being withRead more
In his book, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz mentions four principles we might want to follow to live a more present, joyous and drama-free life. 1). Be impeccable with your word. 2). Always do your best. 3). Don’t take anything personally. 4). Don’t make assumptions. Ahhhhh . . . yes. Assumptions. We assumeRead more