Life. We’re all in it together.
As we near the end of the year, here are 10 ways to set you squarely on your path for 2016, aid you on your journey, and ultimately lead you to getting what you desire in life (because you deserve it!):
1). It’s possible. We live in a world of possibility. Whether you think it’s possible or not, makes it so. Negative brain chatter and self-doubt can make our dreams appear impossible to achieve. But just keep reminding yourself that’s it’s possible. Dreams come true everyday. And here’s one of my favorite quotes to remind yourself every morning when you wake up that you’re waking up to a world of possibility:
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!” – Audrey Hepburn
2). It’s available to you. If you can think it, if you can dream it; if you believe it’s possible, then it’s out there! You just have to find a way to match with what it is you’re wanting. Belaboring what isn’t working in your life doesn’t get you any closer to what could be working. Change your attitude about things and you’ll find new access to things you thought weren’t attainable.
3). You deserve it. Despite what we tell ourselves on a daily basis. (“I don’t deserve it. Who am I to get what I want? Who am I to find the perfect partner? Who am I to book that movie? I don’t deserve it. I’m not worthy.”) Newsflash: You do. End. Of. Story. Let go of guilt, self-judgment, and negativity that keeps you stuck in the cycle that you don’t deserve it.
4). When you are lit up – when you’re doing it, talking about it, creating it – then it’s It. That’s a sure sign that you’re doing something you love and that you’re on your path. Ever notice the glow around people, the energy they have, how they light up a room when they’re doing or talking about something they love and are passionate about? That’s being “lit up”! So, what lights you up? Go there.
5). You are here to shine. Some people will try to dim your light by giving you reasons why something won’t work. Shine regardless. And don’t let their non-reasons of why something isn’t possible dim your light.
6). You don’t need someone else’s permission. What are you waiting for? Jump in. Create. Write that script. Shoot that web series. The exciting thing about the time we’re living in is that you no longer need to wait for the supposed gatekeepers to give you permission to create. Give yourself the green light and realize that’s all you’ve needed all along.
7). Know you can do it. (Even when you doubt that you can.) Despite the evidence that runs counter to what it seems you want, life is about moving forward even with our doubts. Things will trigger your stuff. You’re going to have setbacks. There will be obstacles. Don’t let short-term stumbles keep you from the long-term victory.
8). You’re good enough. Just decide that you’re good enough. Just do it. Make it your mantra. If we constantly compare ourselves to someone else – someone smarter, hotter, more successful, more popular (on Instagram!), more talented – we can never break through with our own victories. They will always be compromised by comparing them against someone else’s. Michael Fassbender said it best:
“My goal was for acting to become my main income. I would say to myself, ‘I’m good enough.’ That became my mantra.” – Michael Fassbender
9). Don’t play small. You’re not serving anyone, least of all the universe, by playing small and preventing yourself from being, doing, and having all that you want to be, do and have. Dream big. Go for it. Give the fullness of your gifts to the world. The world deserves it, and so do you.
10). Fuck it. You have nothing – absolutely nothing to lose – and everything to gain. We have to change the optics. Lean into risk. Follow your instincts. Keep listening to that inner voice that pushes you out of your comfort zone. As weird, wild, icky, strange, anxiety-ridden and gross as it feels – discomfort is the only place that ultimately gets us to what we really want. There is simply No. Other. Way. So feel the feeling and do it anyway.